When writing my It's Time EP, I was compelled to write the song entitled "Time to Get Away" as a celebration to myself for surviving rape, workplace molestation and date rape as well as an inspiration to others to be bold and take action to break-free.
My story: As a teen while walking to my friends house, I was pulled off of the street by a man that I knew, forced into a Equipment Closet of a Fast food chain and raped. Fighting, screaming and crying I finally broke free, ran down the street and hopped on a bus home. Once at home, I nearly burned the skin off of my legs, behind, feet and private area as I scalded myself in a hot bath trying scrub the attack away. My life changed that day, an invisible wall grew around my heart, self-worth and emotions. Confused, hurt, violated, frustrated and ashamed I didn't speak of it with anyone. I walked around dazed for what seemed like an eternity. Sexual Awareness was introduced before its time and I had no tools to combat the advances and future attacks.
It wasn't until some years later that I found a "safe place" with friends in a spiritual setting that I felt empowered to begin to share my journey and stand in my truth. Now I am able to put my thoughts into songs and pray that my music will be an encouragement, healing tool and catalyst for others.
Afraid and uncertain of what others might think or say, I pushed through (and am still pushing) to tell men and women that they are not alone, that I believe you, that you shouldn't be tortured by the person(s) that are looking at you inappropriately, talking to you suggestively or touching you without your consent.
April is Sexual Abuse Awareness Month and I ask that you use your voice to support a survivor.
- Be a safe place for those around you that may be victimized
- Have healthy and considerate conversations about sex
- Give your children and those around you tools to prevent and report attacks
- Believe someones story no matter 'who' the people are and how badly it may hurt you to find out what did or is still happening
- Take action to get help for yourself or others
Here is my song Time to Get Away. May it help you to land softly.